Published on January 28, 2014 | by Rebecca Alberico Photography by Jeeval Tailor
0Textual relationships, saving the spark
“It’s been days but it feels like weeks since I’ve seen you babe, I miss you!!!! Have a great day <3 <3 Always thinking about you ;).”
This is among the countless texts from her boyfriend Austin that gets college graduate Sandra Greco through her long weeks at work as an early childhood educator.
Psychotherapist, Nicole McCance said it’s thoughtful texts and flirty sexts like these that go a long way in keeping romantic relationships fresh and fun.
Couples should utilize texting as another opportunity to connect.
“Through texting you already get out all the mundane details and then when you’re together you create this space where chemistry can really happen”
McCance believes strong relationships are built on communication and most importantly, being best friends with your significant other.
“If you’re texting all the time and you’re sharing your life, that’s someone you can lean on – it’s beautiful.”
Twenty-year-old university student Samantha DeBellis said that one simple text from her boyfriend is enough to put a lasting smile on her face.
“It only takes a few words to change your mood and make your day better.”
Some incorporate texting as a practical means of keeping each other in the loop.
“We’re both super forgetful so texting is a really good way for us to let each other know things right away, before we forget,” said 22-year-old Amanda Storey.
“Our texts are always casual and usually basic check ins or just making plans.”
However, Bradley Zorgdrager felt that the pressure of texting put a strain on his relationship.
“I used to be all about quantity because I wanted constant communication, but the messages become vapid and the frequency becomes stressful,” he said.
McCance said it’s quality that matters, sending one really meaningful message in the morning and before bed does the trick.
“In the background, they’re hearing that they are important to you despite what you’re saying.”
Every so often, however, the fundamental flaw of misinterpretation arises and begs the question, what should be off limits?
McCance recommends saving the hot-topic conversations for in person.
“Anything you know is going to be an argument, don’t go there,” said McCance.
Arguing without being able to effectively read emotions can fuel unnecessary anxiety and frustration.
Psychotherapist, Nicole McCance said couples should have a conversation about the expectations they have for the medium.
It’s important to be on the same page to avoid any unintentional feelings of neglect.
Many people often drive themselves crazy waiting for a response that may not come because their partner’s phone is dead or they may just be having a busy day.
“Don’t expect him or her to read your mind, tell them what you need,” said McCance.
About the Author
Rebecca Alberico is a third year journalism student at the University of Guelph-Humber and writer for Dolce Media Group. She contributes to two successful publications, Dolce Vita Magazine & City Life Magazine, as well as various web content. Her passion for her craft is evident through her determination and ambition. This glass-half-full writer loves the challenges that come with the territory.
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